Interesting read, and I'm not saying this just because the author is handling a less than glowing review of her book very well, heh.
I don't want to post my response there because, frankly, I can be just yakking out of my rear end, and I prefer to embarrass myself here than on someone else's turf.
Here's what I think: it is pretty naïve to assume that LGBT and MF romances can go together and co-exist in harmony.
I mean, look at RWA's reaction to MM romances. Look at the LGBT literary circles' reaction to MM romances written by women.
As long as there is a perception among LGBT folks that straight women - who hold more rights than LGBT people - are meddling or even acquiring an important facet of their lives by writing, selling, and expecting MM romances of theirs to be winning awards, these folks will reject LGBT romances written by straight women, especially those that they do not accept as the few token heterosexual members of the queer literati club. Given how most non-romance readers view romance, MM romances written by straight women (or bisexual women - some gay people don't believe that bisexuality exists and those who claim to be bisexuals are cop-outs or cowards unable to embrace their homosexuality fully) therefore have an uphill climb when it comes to being accepted by LGBT literary circles.
And as long as prejudices exist among straight people when it comes to gay people, MM romances will always have a hard time gaining mainstream acceptance. People may secretly read them in private, but I doubt MM romances will be openly sold in Wal-Mart anytime soon the way they sell those Harlequin series books.
But why do we want MM romances to be accepted anyway? Look at MF romances - the genre is the pariah of popular literature for 20+ years now, but we are all doing great, thank you very much. I know for authors that acceptance and respect can be important, but perhaps we should all just accept that we are all beautiful, popular, amazing, and we don't need those silly fusspots to worship us. We're doing fine on our own, after all. So perhaps LGBT romance authors should adopt the same attitude, exist without being concerned so much about what other people think, and have fun, build a career, and enjoy life while it lasts.